Introduction 💖

Hey all!!! I am creating this blog because this is a topic near & dear to my ❤.  I have two children (7&9) and two step-children (6&8). In the past 6 years I have experienced so many triumphs, and failures in the Co parenting department.

I am in a very unique place to blog about both being able to co-parent and having a near impossible co-parenting relationship.

My SO has two beautiful girls from his previous relationship.  In the beginning of our relationship with his ex; heartache, hatred, and a lot of animosity is what we had to build on. Through the years, those feelings have dwindled and I proudly call her and her husband friends.  We have what most people think is a very odd relationship, one that always leaves others in awe, questioning the sincerity on both ends, and wondering how 4 people could go from where we started to yearly family trips (mostly sharing the same space), 3 hour long venting sessions about life, and most importantly a very well blended family that consists of 9 people.

Now, the other shoe is my Ex SO. For 6 years we have been in and out of court, fighting tooth and nail over our two children. We couldn’t make a decision together if it was the last decision we had to make. Our co parenting is really the opposite of the one described above. When we first split we got along, we made decisions together, and we primised we would never put our children through the hell they eventually and inevitably have been through. He is remarried and I have a worse relationship with her than him, and my current SO and my ex don’t speak. Family vacations and outings is something I could only dream of, unfortunately that’s a dream that will never fester to reality.

Now I never have and never will place all of the blame on him(though most of it is sufficient for me), co parenting is tough stuff. You have to let go of personal animosity, hurt and betrayals. You have to be able to look at your child’s father as just that; your child’s other parent, the second half of your child’s DNA, and find something to hold on to that presents that person in a positive light.

I believe that I am in a unique situation to help others because I am experiencing the day and night of co-parenting. I have dealt with most situations dealing with this subject; relocating, travel for pick up/drop off, primary placement vs. Visitations, fake allegations through local child protective services, child support, lawyer fees, having so many “unexpected” issues come up that a court order doesn’t just cover … Etc.

My hope is that this is not just a blog, but more of an advice Column. This is a tough situation, and the more support to get through it the better. Whether your a mom or dad I feel that I have advice or a similar situation that may just make one part of your journey through this bearable.

Thanks all 🙂